Reiki and the Family
by Kathie Lipinski
Reiki is a gift that we give ourselves and it increases for us
when we can share it as a family. Not just the typical mother
and father and children, but also significant others, and the
many people we often consider family.
My first "students" that I attuned as a new Reiki Master
in 1995 were my husband Bob and son Johnnie (7). Although they
didn't fully understand what Reiki was all about and what I was
about to do, they were willing to support me in my journey as
a teacher. I cannot begin to tell you the joy that I felt as I
prepared them to receive this gift. Tears flowed from my eyes
as I attuned them. I felt the joy and the coming together as a
spiritual family. The remembering of who we are at our soul level
and why we come together in a family was the gift of their attunements.
Later that year, when I attended a Karuna Reiki® workshop,
I was told during a meditation that my son Matthew, at 4 years
of age, was ready to receive his attunement as well. He has brought
much insight ever since (and many laughs) about how to use Reiki.
How we use Reiki as a family is that we pick a time and share
Reiki with each other. The boys are much quicker in their giving
and receiving since they are pure channels. They feel the energy
come in and out. So a typical sharing can last just an hour. We
usually scan each other to find the areas in need and then allow
the Reiki to flow there.
Whenever I am teaching, someone always gives me Reiki before
class. It helps me to be a more clear channel and for things to
If there is an illness or injury, whoever is available at the
time will give Reiki. If we are all available, we give the person
as much Reiki as they want. This has worked well with the kids
and sports injuries and fevers and colds. We have found that the
illness works through the process quicker and injuries heal faster.
A friend of John's recently broke her wrist. He went to her house
and gave her Reiki. He is usually shy about sharing it (he's a
teenager now) so I was quite happy when he told me what he did!
He said she felt the heat and the energy and enjoyed the "treatment."
When one of the boys has an exam in school, we make time to send
Reiki to them. We send the mental/emotional symbol for relaxation
and clear thinking. A few weeks ago, when John was taking his
Math Regents exam, Bob and I stopped what we were doing and sent
Reiki 5 minutes before the exam began. John told us later that
he felt this energy come over him and he felt really good taking
the test. I also send the boys Reiki when they are into sibling
rivalry and fighting. Again, I use the mental/emotional symbol
to help heal the relationship and ask for the best outcome.
We also send Reiki as a family to other family members in difficult
times. When my cousin died this year at 46 years of age, it was
a difficult time for the entire family. The boys and I prepared
them emotionally and asked that we give ourselves Reiki for a
few minutes before we went in. I also asked them to bring Reiki
in, fill themselves up with it, and then let it flow from them
to our relatives and friends who needed it.
We also send Reiki to anyone in the family who is sick or in
distress. We just stop what we are doing, invoke the distant healing
symbol, and think of the person or situation and let the Reiki
flow. We always ask for the best outcome and let Reiki do what
needs to be done.
When Bob has important business meetings, or travels, the boys
and I send Reiki for a successful outcome or safety. When I travel
to teach, they send me Reiki as well.
What I have found is that the use of Reiki in the family helps
us all to be more understanding and accepting and compassionate
with each other. It helps us really focus on the love we feel
for each other.
An interesting family experience was when I gave my niece a Reiki
session (she is 30) and she loved it! I explained what Reiki is
and that we all do it. She then said, "I always knew there
was something special and different about your family!" That
was one of the best compliments I ever had! We have since had
many interesting conversations and it brought our relationship
to a different and more enjoyable level.
One very special family use of Reiki was by two of my students
from New England. They took the Master class in December 1997,
and their gift to their family for Christmas was the gift of Reiki.
On Christmas Eve, they gathered their family together (mom and
dad and sisters), talked about Reiki, and then gave them their
first degree attunement. Even the cat joined in! That was their
sharing of their love for their family. They have shared it ever
Some other ways families can use Reiki is if someone is terminally
ill or going through radiation or chemotherapy. The family members
learn Reiki and are able to give their loved ones Reiki to support
their process. They also have Reiki for themselves to replenish
their energy and help them keep on keeping on. It is also useful
for someone who has surgery. Giving Reiki before and after helps
the healing process and strengthens the connection between family
Some women also study Reiki so that they can give themselves
and their baby Reiki during their pregnancy. What a gift that
baby has receiving Reiki even before it's born!
Reiki is good for all aspects of loving and living together.
It helps us to be the people we are truly meant to be. It helps
us to remember to be compassionate and understanding and tolerant
of those we love and live with.
How do you share Reiki with your family and friends?
Kathie Lipinski RN, is an ICRT Licensed teacher and a holistic
nurse in private practice on Long Island, NY. She can be reached